In a 2012 survey of employers by the job placement firm OI Partners, being a team player -- as in, flexible and helpful -- was the top-valued quality in an employee. A 2011 study found that couples who reported a high level of generosity in their relationship were five times more likely to say their marriage was very happy.And sometimes just saying yes is the easiest way out (see: placating a demanding mother-in-law). Other research finds that when we do things for other people, our brains light up in areas associated with pleasure and reward.
Second, and related to the first -- this man did not act simply in reaction to his epiphany.
He didn't simply swing the other way, as if to say "well now I'll be a jerk to everyone else to punish them." Instead, he continued to be generous and magnanimous, but he took responsibility for drawing and enforcing his own boundaries.
A black high-waisted skirt with silver hearts near the hemline, was teamed with black opaque tights and ankle boots.
She later covered her frame in a chic white overcoat with a grey fur collar.
It stands to reason: "Saying yes all the time can really zap your mood; it can also make you feel resentful and over-committed," says Simon Rego, Psy D, director of psychology training at Montefiore Medical Center in New York City.