I would like to encourage a cultural mind shift that empowers people to accept and celebrate themselves, even if they live alone, and to live a fulfilled life in the present.
Self-marriage isn’t actually a new idea, my Mum rang me from the cinema the other day, she’d just watched the latest adaptation of Thomas Hardy’s Far From The Madding Crowd and was so surprised when the feisty heroine, Bathsheba, actually uttered the words: ‘Well, what I mean is that I shouldn’t mind being a bride at a wedding, if I could be one without having a husband.
I think it’s an important positive message because single people are often made to feel incomplete; a woman in particular has a lifetime of gendered social messages that tell her she needs a man.
Often people who are romantically unattached feel the need to apologise for their solo status, as if there is something inherently wrong with them that they should be ashamed of.
I contacted Brighton and Hove Registry Office to ask if it was possible and was told: ‘The answer is a resounding “no”.